Welcome back! I am thrilled to see you come back to me and listen to what I have to share. Today, I added a new category. A little "not so common" category in brown culture, mostly. Many of us refuse to talk about this category because it makes us uncomfortable or was never taught to us. A category that a lot of brown parents think is just a hoax. That's why I want to talk about it and possibly help a lot of you suffering daily. The first post of this category is devoted to a healthy mindset. A healthy mindset can impact your and many people's lives in many different ways, so why are we not taught this at school?
So, without any wait, let's dive right into it.
Why am I even telling you about this? Well, to establish some kind of credibility, I am a brown woman, who belongs to a lower-middle-class, once an immigrant, STEM major, student, single, and youngest of four children. I bet I can add more tags eventually, but that's not the point. The point is that I have been there. I have been there when I had everything I wanted, yet I couldn't accomplish my goals. I had all the resources, but every time things got rough, I just gave up. I was never told any "empowering words" growing up. The only person who really believed in me and my abilities was myself. I always envisioned growing up to make a positive impact on people's lives. I always wanted to leave a legacy behind, and I am not talking about leaving a money trail, but how I impacted someone's life. I always loved listening to Ted talks. I loved motivational songs. I loved to hear about an opportunity that would put a smile on someone's face.
I was never my first priority. My goal in life was never to be happy all by myself or just do things for myself. I always wanted to make people around me happy. I wrote in my journal on those tough nights that "I CAN DO THIS." I told myself, "I CAN'T GIVE UP," but little do you know, no one around me believed in me when I said these words. I was made fun of for my passion. I was laughed at, saying, "Wait till you grow up." Yes, life became a series of puzzles, but it didn't lower my passion ever. I am still that 10-year-old girl who believed in me and will always believe in my abilities.
Moving to the US was part of my vision, and I moved here at the age of 15, all by myself. I always believed in having a good company or no company around me. When my parents weren't supportive of my visions at an early age, I was hurt. I developed trust issues, and I still suffer from them. This is one of the reasons I am never bored when I am alone. I am a friend of myself. Only I know how much passion I have and how many mountains I can push. I don't think anything is impossible. I simply don't choose to believe in this phrase. Why focus on the negative when you can look forward to the positive things in life. A negative thought only builds fear in you! It pushes you away from your faith in you. It tells you to focus on what's wrong with the product instead of its good qualities. I think the only people who should focus on the wrongs are Quality Assurance Engineers lol because you know, they test out things and try to break them. You have to focus on your progress report and write down goals.
Surround yourself with people who are willing to take the time in their lives to help you pay attention to the right things. I am telling you, the earlier you do this, the more you are going to appreciate my advice. Because fellas, life doesn't get any easier as you age. It only increases in difficulty level, so on those "feeling blue" days, you need someone to cheer you up. If you don't have a puppy or another person (just like me), be your own puppy dog. Go feed yourself your favorite food and hustle through. Don't let social media take you down. Before they take you down, you should take them down. Remember, many people only share their good moments on social media because no one likes misery.
When I was little, every time I didn't believe in me, I made myself write a motivational phrase down at least 100 times. It was a punishment for me because my hands would start hurting, and then I would never think like that again. It worked, honestly! I knew from a very long time that I came to this world alone and will leave this world alone. As a result, I can only trust myself with my true abilities. I know if I need a backup, I will be there. I am inspired by DJ Khaled because he's always so grateful and funny. He knows where he came from and where he's today. His memes are my favorite, and I have a picture of him in my bathroom with his quote, "They don't want us to win, so we're going to win."
Here are some tips for changing your mindset:
1) BE YOUR OWN BELIEVER
2) Never say a negative phrase
3) Surround yourself with positive mindset people
4) Don't be afraid and face your fears
5) Listen to motivational music, and speakers (Ted Talks also)
6) If someone talks bad about you, don't listen to them
7) Write down your goals
8) Have faith, and NEVER GIVE UP!
I give all the credit to my mindset for bringing me this far. If I didn't believe in me, I wouldn't be on my way to accomplish and possibly impact the world. While I am far away from actually achieving it, I have the courage and motivation to work towards it today. Life and college are really all about what you make out of it. Some people need to find a purpose while others are ok living without a purpose, focusing on smaller level problems. For me, the sky is the limit. I will keep pushing you to be your most fabulous self every day and live like your birthday every day.
Songs I'm listening to this week: The Fighter by Gym Class Heroes
Glorius by Macklemore
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