In a world where swiping left or right has become the norm for finding love or entertainment (depending on the day), today’s generation is navigating an entirely different landscape than those before us. The days when acts of service, deep conversations, and genuine commitment were the bedrock of love seem to be fading, replaced by a more materialistic and superficial understanding of what it means to connect with someone.
Remember those days where someone would hand write a letter, give you a rose, cook for you and was in love with you and not with how much money you made. Well, you probably don't remember because we never went through it, we just read it in the books.
This shift has led many to question the true meaning of love in our modern age and left a growing number of people feeling disillusioned, frustrated, and delusional.
The Shift from Meaningful Connections to Materialistic Pursuits
Love used to be about understanding and supporting one another, about the small acts of kindness that showed you truly cared. Holding the door open, cooking a favorite meal, or simply being there to listen were once considered the ultimate love languages. These acts of service, which were once celebrated as the highest forms of affection, have been overshadowed by the allure of material possessions and surface-level attractions.
In today’s dating scene, grand gestures often come with a price tag. Expensive gifts and lavish dates have become symbols of affection, but they lack the emotional depth that true love requires. This shift has led to relationships built on shallow foundations, where the value of a connection is often measured by the size of the bank account rather than the size of the heart.
"If he can't pay $50k mehr and can't buy me all my favorite branded bags for me, well sis he's not made for me, Period." - says today's generation.
The Struggle of Gen-Z: Love in the Age of Entertainment
For Gen-Z, finding love has become a daunting task. Dating apps, which were initially designed to bring people together, have instead become sources of entertainment and distraction. The endless scrolling, swiping, and chatting have turned what should be a meaningful search for connection into a game, where winning means securing the most matches, not finding a true partner.
As a result, many in this generation are struggling to find genuine love. The constant exposure to superficial interactions has left some feeling jaded and disillusioned. Those who still believe in the power of true love often find themselves giving up, overwhelmed by the shallow connections they encounter online. Take me as an example. I've given up on the dating game before even starting, after seeing what my friends have gone through.
It's even worst if you're Muslim. Ok, Haram police, we see you are here and reading this and I get it that yes we shouldn't be dating in the first place but some of us have the liberty to go out and choose a partner for ourselves without indulging in any haram acts. But here's where it gets worst. A lot of people on the apps are looking to hook up or scam people. Some people have too many ego issues and get hurt if they find out that they are not a compatible match. A lot of men are not honest about their marriages. Like yes we know you can have four wives but at least be honest about it up front. The list goes on.
A Call for a Return to True Love
Yet, despite the challenges, there are still those who believe in the old-fashioned kind of love—a love that is selfless, patient, and enduring💞. These true lovers are out there, but they are becoming increasingly rare (like me🥲). The solution to this modern problem lies not in more technology, but in a return to the basics of what makes love real: kindness, commitment, and the willingness to put someone else’s needs before your own.
The person or company that can solve this problem—who can find a way to bring genuine connection back into the dating world especially in this post covid world —will undoubtedly become the next millionaire. Because in a world full of distractions, the ability to offer true love is the most valuable commodity of all.
Rekindling the Flame of True Love
As we navigate the complexities of modern dating, it’s crucial to remember that love is not about the material things we can offer, but about the emotional depth and genuine connection we can create. The struggle to find true love may be real, but it’s a struggle worth enduring. By returning to the values that once defined love, we can hope to create relationships that are not just fleeting, but lasting and meaningful.
To those true, hopeful or hopeless lovers, you will find it if it's meant for you. While you don't know if it's truly meant for you in this world, continue to still pursue it. May love find you in the best time of your life where you don't have to rely on it but enjoy it as a cherry on top of your amazing life.
Until next time, Peace 💗
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