Are you finally in that stage of life where your friends have started getting their feet wet in the pool of dating? Are you one of those friends who will let their friends try out what's in the market while sitting back entertaining yourself? Welcome to another episode of Gen-Z navigates the world. We will have fun today.
My friend is the first person in that scenario above, and I'm the second person. It feels weird to me that my friends are dating. It stirs up a lot of issues for me. Number one, how the fuck are we already old enough to find potential lifemates and settle down when I haven't even moved out of my student accommodation? Number two abandonment issues. Yes. I'm getting the real Robin Scherbatsky vibes too. If my friends find their partners, they will get busy with their new lives, and there go all our girls' trips. I can talk about this issue all day, and today is not about that. Today is about how you can support your friends getting over people while they try to hunt "The One."
Just Be There For Them
Honestly, a person struggling to get over someone needs to be heard. They don't really want to listen to you. They feel many things, and rejection/loneliness is the number one feeling. They don't want to get your opinion on how they should feel about this. Tell them to speak their mind to you, empty all the thoughts or things they are feeling, and just let it all out. Breakups take time, especially if your friend is the one that caught the feelings. You have to be supportive and be available. In my case, my friend lives on the West Coast. While I couldn't be physically available to comfort her, I made sure I texted her often and attended all her random FaceTime calls throughout the day. I also saved up some money for a flight in case it turns out to be a terminal condition. Thank God the so-called "relationship" was in its early stages. She was way hotter for him anyways.
Help Them Raise Their Confidence
If you're the one who gets dumped in a relationship series, you feel like a bag of crap. You feel rejected. You feel unloved and abandoned. Those are just a couple of feelings. The best thing you can do for any friend in this time is to cheer them up by telling them how beautiful/handsome they are inside and outside. Count all their qualities before them and advise them that it's not their fault. They were just not meant for them. Advise them not to lose hope and keep searching. Your friend can indulge in a new hobby to go through this challenging time. Lastly, when they go on another date, they will already have the related experience and maybe if their date has a cute friend, you could get hooked too👀😉
That's all for today, see you guys next time. Peace🫶🏼
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