Welcome back to another episode of building good habits and making this world a better place. I'm your host Zahra, and I get conflicted thoughts about this topic a lot. And here's why: If you don't have confidence, you have low self-esteem, and without humility, you are just arrogant.
I hope you have been staying warm and cozy. I'll start with a little story today. Once upon a time, when I was in the second grade, my report card came back after my final exams with a disturbing comment. Our report cards used to have essential personality traits rated by our teachers. In the confidence section, I always used to get confident by my teachers. But in second grade, I got overconfident. Long story short, my family made a lot of fun of me.
Since I was a child, I have always had this "overconfident" personality that has translated into somewhat cockiness in these days' words. Sometimes, a cocky attitude is fun to laugh at, but the other days, it makes you look like a dick(excuse the language). This got me thinking about how a person can accommodate confidence and humility in their personality. These two things look like conflicting traits, but after some research, I found that they provide the perfect sweet spot in our lives. If you are like me, your entire personality is based on a witty/cocky trait, so today, I will introduce some tips to add more humility into your life without any drastic change to your personality.
Don't Confuse Liking Yourself With Being Liked By Everyone
Here's the thing, confidence is about liking yourself. It's also about being comfortable with yourself and appreciating all your qualities. You can have a loud or a shy personality, but you are all good as long as you're content with yourself.
Confidence becomes arrogance when you expect everyone to like you, just like you like yourself.
Let people point out all the good things about you. Trust me, good habits/traits speak for themselves. If you're good at something, don't talk about it all the time. After all, a truly confident person doesn't need everyone else's affirmation on how good they are at something.
You Are Not Better Than Everyone Else
A big red flag for you is on your way if you think that you are better than anyone ever. You are not better than everyone else, and you're not that important either. Not trying to bring you down or anything, but everyone matters. I think you can learn something from everyone, whether you're a successful businessman talking to your Uber driver or a man trying to learn about your mom's life.
The best way for a quick moment of humility: I am not better than anyone
If you feel good about yourself, keep it to yourself or tell someone without making them feel down about themselves.
Conclusion
You can feel confident about yourself by your looks, humor, or achievements. A good smile and standing tall will also exhibit your confidence. But being humble is recognizing that you're not perfect. You have both strengths and weaknesses. The best way to demonstrate humility is to make other people feel good about themselves, show gratitude, communicate with kindness, and respect people.
Life is too short to be an arrogant person and mistreat people. It may make you feel better in the phase of life you are in at the moment, but soon you will realize it's not worth it. As always, listen more than you speak, and you will find yourself attracting people instead of chasing them ✨
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